Truth be told, I had no idea when it was happening after the decision had been made, it only crossed my mind again when I had people come up to me lamenting the fact that I had lost weight and cornering me for 'the secret'.
Simply put, you have to be willing to do the work; implement a holistic approach and develop the mindset which facilitates the type of change you say you want. The final step is GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY.
On making the decision and setting the intention to get to my ideal weight; I got into action and then everything seemed to be functioning on autopilot. The thing is, one morning I got on the scale and I was much lighter than my goal weight. Of course I was excited but it also dawned on me how easy it was. I had not been doing any additional exercise and I certainly wasn't skipping meals or eating 2 lettuce leaves and drinking a glass of water for lunch. You know me well enough to know that I'm a foodie at heart and I also enjoy the occasional indulgence (think chocolate, tiramisu, wine and a few other things which call my name in the night).
When I really took the time to analyse what had happened, I realised that I was so sufficiently distracted from losing weight because I had been working on enjoyable projects, spending time with people I love, enjoying my life and living in the now that the weight was released without resistance. This weight loss was so noticeable that I had people coming up to me telling me that I had lost weight and soliciting my 'secret'. The only thing I could say was I wasn't really trying and "I just woke up skinny".
Problem is, people believe that getting what they want has to be 'hard' or 'difficult' and if it comes 'too easily' or the process is 'too simple' they cannot get their head around it and have not understood that their words are powerful and they have created the life they now live and the bodies they currently have. I know because I was one of those people. There really is no need for you to waste any more time getting to where you know you are meant to be. If you're telling yourself:
- I have no idea what to do
- I want to lose the baby fat (and your baby is now 7 years old)
- Getting in shape is so frustrating
- I am so confused
- I have done everything I could possibly do (We both know that this one isn't true)
- I give up
- Decide what you want. Nothing happens unless you make a definite decision (not to be confused with a wish) and set an intention to have what it is that you say you want. Do you want to release the weight; reduce your body fat; build lean muscle; fit into your LBD; be able to find your size on the rack; improve your confidence? Until you make a commitment to what you want, nothing will change. Write your goal(s) out in clear vivid detail and create some affirmations to support your desired outcome. Repeat your affirmations on a daily basis and experience the emotion you would feel if your goal had already been achieved. Staying positive is great but it goes much deeper than being positive; it really is a question of your belief system and the paradigms that are keeping you stuck.
- Implement a no excuses policy. As the policy suggests - leave the excuses at the door because you can either have the excuses or you can have what you want but you can't have both. This policy comes with a built in "I will do whatever it takes clause", implied disciple and sacrifice which will keep you on track to achieving your goals.
- Eat "right" ("right" varies). I'm certainly not into quick fixes and fads as these are unsustainable and unhealthy. A nutrition plan which is in sync with your desired outcome will work wonders. Apart from having the correct mindset, nutrition is at least 90% of the equation. Eat "right" and see the body you want appear before your eyes.
- Move your body. Not only will you release those good feeling hormones you can actually sculpt a shapely body depending on what form of movement you choose. Basically, your choice of movement will depend on your goal and all movement is certainly beneficial.
- Release your attachment to the outcome. Please do yourself a favor and step away from the scale, there's really no need to weigh yourself every hour on the hour. You are so much more than the number that appears and there are so many other factors to consider such as your body fat percentage, how your clothes actually fit; your waist-to-hip ratio - you get the idea. Once you know you've done all you can and you've given it a 100%; what you want is already on the way and fixating on the outcome only distracts you from enjoying the journey.
You can certainly go at it alone and that's what you've been doing up to this point without much luck OR you can reach out for help. Either way, I sincerely want you to get what you want because I believe we were all meant to have healthy lean bodies and live passionate lives. The thing is, you've got to want it as much for yourself as I want it for you.
In the meantime...Give thanks. Eat clean. Train hard. Sleep deep